I don’t know what do to speed up the process when I get the same damn answers . If it’s just a “piece of paper” why won’t he go ahead and sign it? Why would anyone want to force marriage on someone, if it’s not what the other person wants.. He enjoys being in a relationship with you or he wouldn’t be in the relationship, why isn’t that enough?
Your situation is harder because you have kids but if he loves you enoigh, he should make proclaim youby making it OFFICIAL and PUBLIC and LEGAL, no othet short cut way around it! And if you want to marry because there is something wrong in your relationship right now: marriage won’t fix it, communication might.
We’ve had our problems but have worked through it all and I really want him to pop the question already.
There was a moment when he talked about us being married, but he joked that I should be the one to get him the ring.
Sharing your feelings with him is fine, but you want it to be from a place of love and understanding and not from a place of frustration and impatience.
Personally, my criteria for getting married is: Other than those reasons (and I would need to have all 3 be true), I would not get married. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t date a girl long term to see where it goes, but unless I’m at a point where those conditions are all true for me, I wouldn’t marry yet.
I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.
And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.
The fear for guys is that it’s going to be a really crappy deal if things fall apart.
It’s counter-intuitive, but focusing on marriage might actually be part of the problem here.
I would recommend shifting your focus away from getting married and put it on appreciating him and loving him more deeply. I’m also afraid of divorce and think all of you should be too..
Please understand that I get that and I’m not saying that last part to be sexist or “old fashioned”.
I’m just sharing how many guys think about marriage.) Plus, for the guy it’s not like he’s not getting love or sex beforehand.