Republican and dating
He was, and continues to be, supportive, understanding, and quick to argue for every woman's right to choose.But as much as I appreciate my partner's views on reproductive rights, I equally appreciate his views on foreign policy — a contentious topic in our house.Now, as the most contentious and bizarre presidential election in recent memory unfolds, passionate debates fill our house.While I am hopeful Bernie Sanders will secure a nomination, I'll happily vote for Hillary Clinton.Even the arguments that don't necessarily educate me, like the ongoing discussion about having guns in our home now that we have a child, make me a better person and partner.I see absolutely no point for a gun to be in our home, while my partner believes our son gives him more reason than ever before to have a weapon at his disposal.
The whole date I kept thinking, Until, of course, I asked him about politics.
Despite our differences, we love and respect each other because I value my partner's opinion and he values mine, even, and especially, when we don't agree.
I know enough about him — his upbringing, his unique life experiences — to understand how his political views have been shaped.
Another school shooting had left us knee-deep in a laborious debate we'd had many times before. I know asking about politics on a first date is like talking about your ex: taboo and arguably idiotic. Bush, and he cringed when I said I voted for Barack Obama, but we pushed forward anyway because, well, whiskey and sexual chemistry are two powerful unifiers.
He argued the value of the Second Amendment; I couldn't even fathom the rights of gun owners when children had died. But we've been together for four years, have a 2-year-old child, and couldn't be more in love. I published an article in a local newspaper about dating in Seattle, and he messaged me because he could relate. But the whiskey was flowing and I felt something when I looked at him — something that told me this wouldn't just be a one-night stand — so I wanted to know that we had as much political chemistry as we had sexual. That's not to say that I didn't consider dating someone else.